gonzo57 wrote:I know I have a problem but it seems that I am substituting alcohol for companionship.
Since my divorce I've had some really bad luck at dating again. I am thinking that I might be to that point where I am giving up on finding someone. I don't want to give up but the energy is no longer there. I find it harder and harder to approach women for a date.
I've dealt with crazy ones, lying ones, cheating ones and even a bi-polar one.
I just seems easier to come home take care of what little chores I have then go and zone out over a case of beer or a bottle of bourbon.
On a serious note - and given some very valid replies - no-one can understand your current circumstances and how you're dealing with them. Be careful - and joking aside - speak to a professional about the position you're in and the 'problem'.
In the UK we have access to AA (alcoholics anonymous) - NHS (national health service) and other support groups - you may have the same. They will generally not treat you as a drunk but an individual - it is up to you how you categorise yourself. If indeed you seriuosly think you have a problem - do something about it now. It looks as though you have already reached a conclusion.
Speaking from experience - it is easy to use all the problems you have and 'hit the bottle' to eliminate them. It might be the short term answer - but i think you are looking at the longer term - so
act now.
Take care, B