How do you cope with a breakup?

I've recently, as last wednesday, broke up with whom I thought was the best thing to happen to me in years, how in hell do I get the pain, anger, hate out of me? First time I've ever felt so much for somebody and now I can't even sleep, eat... All I do is drink and smoke.... And in the morning i feel worse and think about her more than ever..... Is there anything I can do?
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You should do things you like, so you dont think about it all the time.
But overall you need to give it some time, time is your cure.

thanks man, I try doing things, but everything makes me think "what if?", I know time is the only cure, but it hurts as hell....
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MajinBoo wrote:

Yeah, know that, experienced the same few years ago.

Here's another thread concerning the same problem:

https://www.forumophilia.com/topic93783.html

Monkey D. Ruffy

It may be cliche but true. "Nothing gets you over the last one like the next one". Of course it may be hard to realize now but, in time it will. Until then, enjoy being a free man/woman.

I still feel like crap.... Specially at night and when I wake up... when I'm alone in the house, it hurts a lot. It's not a matter of going out with somebody else, it feels bad to hurt them for what I feel, not beign able to show that I care for them for what happened, that sort of thing. I've being there before and she felt like crap for not beign able to show me how she felt about me.
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As others have said, time is the healer. I used to just get drunk every night for a week to forget a breakup and then stop and it seemed better, but ideally try to focus on positives, new things and go running or something, look at some more perks Eventually though you will look back and be somewhere else with someone else and it'll just be a memory.. Good luck

its been a year ande a half since my wife told me on our anniversary that she wanted to divorce me. its hard bro. ive fucked alot of girls since her and she hasnt even dated anyone yet. fucking hookers and strangers help me for some reason. i had a girlfriend for a month but lied and said i was deploying(im an infantryman) to afghanistan so i wouldnt have to deal with her. she was just a fuck toy for me and she was dropping the love bomb on my alot. good luck bro. id kill to get my wife back.

It will sound cold, but you shouldn't let yourself spend any time thinking, "What if?" It takes two people to make a relationship, and all the "what ifs" mean nothing when one person isn't there.

I've had some ugly breakups in my time and found that the best cure is to go do all the things I couldn't do as often as I wanted when I was in a relationship. Fishing by myself, camping with a bunch of friends and spending time on hobbies I never seemed to have enough time for. All that and, as many have said here, time.

grantltaylor wrote:

My wife of 5 years just did that too me 2 weeks ago. It's been a really bad 2 weeks. I am not at the stage of wanting anyone else right now.

Time is the best remedy. Til then, work out a lot....that always made me feel a lot better.

MajinBoo wrote:

Here in the 'States, we take our guns and go on a shooting spree. But I understand that people in other countries can't just go kill people like we do.

So there's Plan B:
Do something else. There are 6 billion people in the world, 3 billion are women, and you'd "do" at least 200 million of them, easy. So your job is to go find someone else.

Is it easy? Nope. But you have to do it. You can mope about a lost love until you're old and grey, but the secret of it all is . . . go do something else.

Me, I've always liked lifting weights, and especially when I'm down. There's something about it that gets you a little buzzed about having sore muscles.

Things not to do: sit around the house.

The time is the only cure that I know, but you have to do things you like or that you need to do: work, sport, video games, see your friends, and don't think of her too much. You must know that you will forget her with the time, no matter what ; she's not the perfect girl or something and you'll find an other one. You need to get other mental occupations and give it enough time to think about something else. Talk about your pain with your best friends but NEVER talk with her about it. Drinking and smoking are not a good way to forget, sport or things like this are way better ; it'll still hurt, but it's more constructive for you and maybe you'll make encounter while practising (man or girls).

rb25det wrote:

It took her two weeks to tell me she wants a divorce. I have been with her fro 11 years and during that time I never went more then a week without sex! Of course there is another guy involved since she is too weak to leave me on her own. I will post nudes up when the divorce is final. It will take a few weeks I think.

i sleep with her friends, ruin their friendships and pave over them and move on..I mean..that's if it was a bad breakup. If it's a clean separation I just usually go to pubs with my mates and try to do things to get my mind off things or work on my car.